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Id, Ego, and Superego: Freud's Elements of Personality

How do the three work together to form personality?

Kendra Cherry, MS, is a psychosocial rehabilitation specialist, psychology educator, and author of the "Everything Psychology Book."

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Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital.

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The Interaction of the Id, Ego, and Superego

What happens if there is an imbalance.

According to  Sigmund Freud , human personality is complex and has more than a single component. In his famous psychoanalytic theory, Freud states that personality is composed of three elements known as the id, the ego, and the superego. These elements work together to create complex human behaviors.

"The id is considered the basis of sexual and aggressive energy and is largely held in the unconscious, emerging as illogical or wishful thinking," explains Shannon Sauer-Zavala, PhD , associate professor of psychology at the University of Kentucky. "The superego is one’s conscience and is established via identification with parental figures or social groups at large. The ego is tasked with balancing reality with the demands of desire (id) and morality (superego)." 

Each component adds its own unique contribution to personality, and the three interact in ways that have a powerful influence on an individual. Each element of personality emerges at different points in life.

According to Freud's theory, certain aspects of your personality are more primal and might pressure you to act upon your most basic urges. Other parts of your personality work to counteract these urges and strive to make you conform to the demands of reality. 

Here's a closer look at each of these key parts of the personality, how they work individually, and how they interact.

  • According to Freud, the id is the source of all psychic energy, making it the primary component of personality.
  • The id is the only component of personality that is present from birth.
  • This aspect of personality is entirely unconscious and includes instinctive and primitive behaviors.

The id is driven by the  pleasure principle , which strives for immediate gratification of all desires, wants, and needs. If these needs are not satisfied immediately, the result is a state of anxiety or tension. For example, an increase in hunger or thirst should produce an immediate attempt to eat or drink.

The id is very important early in life because it ensures that an infant's needs are met. If the infant is hungry or uncomfortable, they will cry until the demands of the id are satisfied. Young infants are ruled entirely by the id; there is no reasoning with them when these needs demand satisfaction.

Examples of the Id

Imagine trying to convince a baby to wait until lunchtime to eat their meal. The id requires immediate satisfaction, and because the other components of personality are not yet present, the infant will cry until these needs are fulfilled.

However, immediately fulfilling these needs is not always realistic or even possible. If we were ruled entirely by the pleasure principle, we might find ourselves grabbing the things that we want out of other people's hands to satisfy our cravings.

This behavior would be both disruptive and socially unacceptable. According to Freud, the id tries to resolve the tension created by the pleasure principle through the use of  primary process thinking , which involves forming a mental image of the desired object to satisfy the need.

Although people eventually learn to control the id, this part of personality remains the same infantile, primal force throughout life. It is the development of the ego and the superego that allows people to control the id's basic instincts and act in ways that are both realistic and socially acceptable.

  • According to Freud, the ego develops from the id and ensures that the impulses of the id can be expressed in a manner acceptable in the real world.
  • The ego functions in the  conscious , preconscious, and  unconscious  mind.
  • The ego is the personality component responsible for dealing with reality.

Everyone has an ego. The term ego is sometimes used to describe your cohesive awareness of your personality, but personality and ego are not the same. The ego represents just one component of your full personality.

The ego operates based on the  reality principle , which strives to satisfy the id's desires in realistic and socially appropriate ways. The reality principle weighs the costs and benefits of an action before deciding to act upon or abandon impulses.

In many cases, the id's impulses can be satisfied through a process of  delayed gratification —the ego will eventually allow the behavior, but only in the appropriate time and place.

The term ego is often used informally to suggest that someone has an inflated sense of self. However, the ego in personality has a positive effect. It is the part of your personality that keeps you grounded in reality and prevents the id and superego from pulling you too far toward your most basic urges or moralistic virtues. Having a strong ego means having a strong sense of self-awareness.

Freud compared the id to a horse and the ego to the horse's rider. The horse provides power and motion, while the rider provides direction and guidance. Without its rider, the horse would wander wherever it wished and do whatever it pleased. The rider gives the horse directions and commands to get it where it wants it to go.

The ego also discharges tension created by unmet impulses through secondary process thinking, in which the ego tries to find an object in the real world that matches the mental image created by the id's primary process.

Examples of the Ego

Imagine that you are stuck in a long meeting at work. You find yourself growing increasingly hungry as the meeting drags on. While the id might compel you to jump up from your seat and rush to the break room for a snack, the ego guides you to sit quietly and wait for the meeting to end.

Instead of acting upon the primal urges of the id, you spend the rest of the meeting imagining yourself eating a cheeseburger. Once the meeting is finally over, you can seek out the object you were imagining and satisfy the demands of the id realistically and appropriately.

The Superego

The last component of personality to develop is the superego .

  • According to Freud, the superego begins to emerge at around age 5.
  • The superego holds the internalized moral standards and ideals that we acquire from our parents and society (our sense of right and wrong).
  • The superego provides guidelines for making judgments.

The superego has two parts:

  • The conscience  includes information about things that are viewed as bad by parents and society. These behaviors are often forbidden and lead to bad consequences, punishments, or feelings of guilt and remorse.
  • The ego ideal  includes the rules and standards for behaviors that the ego aspires to.

The superego tries to perfect and civilize our behavior. It suppresses all the id's unacceptable urges and struggles to make the ego act upon idealistic standards rather than on realistic principles. The superego is present in the conscious, preconscious, and unconscious.

Examples of the Superego

For example, if you give in to the urges of the id, the superego is what will cause you to feel a sense of guilt or even shame about your actions. The superego may help you feel good about your behavior when you suppress your most primal urges.

Other examples of the superego include:

  • A woman feels an urge to steal office supplies from work. However, her superego counteracts this urge by focusing on the fact that such behaviors are wrong. 
  • A man realizes that the cashier at the store forgot to charge him for one of the items he had in his cart. He returns to the store to pay for the item because his internalized sense of right and wrong urges him to do so.
  • A student forgets to study for a history test and feels an urge to cheat off of a student sitting nearby. Even though he feels like his chances of getting caught are low, he knows that cheating is wrong, so he suppresses the urge.

When talking about the id, the ego, and the superego, it is important to remember that these are not three separate entities with clearly defined boundaries. These aspects are dynamic and always interacting to influence an individual's overall personality and behavior.

With many competing forces, it is easy to see how conflict might arise between the id, ego, and superego. "A central theme of Freud’s work is that id, ego, and superego are always in conflict and the specific nature of these discrepancies determines one’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (or personality)," says Sauer-Zavala.

Freud further assumed that it takes a lot of mental energy to keep the id’s desires in the unconscious; however, unconscious thoughts must go somewhere and are likely to be expressed in another form that may not be under one’s control (e.g., as symptom, dream, joke, slip of the tongue, or behavior).

Freud used the term  ego strength  to refer to the ego's ability to function despite these dueling forces. A person who has good ego strength can effectively manage these pressures, while a person with too much or too little ego strength can be unyielding or disruptive.

According to Freud, the key to a healthy personality is a balance between the id, the ego, and the superego. If the ego is able to adequately moderate between the demands of reality, the id, and the superego, a healthy and well-adjusted personality emerges. Freud believed that an imbalance between these elements would lead to a maladaptive personality.

"Freud believed that mental health difficulties (anxiety, depression) arise when 'the ego has lost the capacity to allocate the [id] in some way' (Freud, 1920), adds Sauer-Zavala. "Freud noted that, in many cases, the symptoms experienced are as bad or worse than the conflict they were designed to replace. Though the symptom is a substitute for the instinctual impulse, it has been so reduced, displaced, and distorted that it looks more like a compulsion or even an illness than a gratification of the id’s desire."

For example, an individual with an overly dominant id might become impulsive, uncontrollable, or even criminal. Such an individual acts upon their most basic urges with no concern for whether their behavior is appropriate, acceptable, or legal.

On the other hand, an overly dominant superego might lead to a personality that is extremely moralistic and judgmental. A person ruled by the superego might not be able to accept anything or anyone that they perceive to be "bad" or "immoral."

Final Thoughts

Freud's theory provides one conceptualization of how personality is structured and how the elements of personality function. In Freud's view, a balance in the dynamic interaction of the id, ego, and superego is necessary for a healthy personality.

"Freud’s accounts of the nature of one’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors have largely fallen out of favor," admits Sauer-Zavala. "People began to question whether differences in people’s personalities could accurately be reduced to sexual and aggressive impulses. In fact, there is limited research support for Freud’s theories."

While the ego has a tough job to do, it does not have to act alone. Anxiety also plays a role in helping the ego mediate between the demands of the basic urges, moral values, and the real world. When you experience different types of anxiety , defense mechanisms may kick in to help defend the ego and reduce the anxiety you are feeling.

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How to Do Ego Work

I teach a lot about ego work. I have found it to be one of the most powerful tools in my own healing journey. If you commit to this practice, you will have life-changing transformations.

Ego work is for you if: – you feel emotionally depleted – you’re “stuck” – life doesn’t feel joyful – you feel ready to let go of black and white thinking – you find yourself in unfulfilling or toxic relationships – you find connecting with other people difficult or like something is missing – your beliefs are rigid and you’d like to grow – you are ready to heal

Before I outline the practice, I want to remind you that it is just that: a practice. This is not something that has a “hack” or something that comes quickly. Ego work is a shift in consciousness. Consciousness is only shifted via repetition.

Stay patient. Show up.

There will be a lot of resistance because your ego dreads one thing most: change. Allow the resistance to come up without judgement.

Resistance is growth.

What is the ego?

The ego is the “I.” It is how you see yourself. It is the part of your mind that identifies with traits, beliefs, and habits. Your ego is an unconscious part of your mind.

Where does the ego come from?

As a child, you came into this world with an intuitive nature. You instinctively understood the world even though you could not speak the language. Your level of consciousness was pure awareness.

As a child, you have no filter. You can play, imagine, and create. You are not yet tied to an identity of who you are. You are born unconditioned.

Simply being comes naturally to you.

During childhood, your ego is in ego-centric state. It’s best described with the saying ‘the world revolves around you.’ In this state, everything is happening to you because of you.

Childhood wounds are particularly impactful because of this ego period. It is not until the teenage years that you develop abstract thinking, the ability to observe outside of your own perspective.

Your ego develops to protect you from your reality. It creates an identity for you to cope with any confusion, disconnection, and loss of love that you experienced. It strengthens an identity to ensure to the best of your ability that we can still receive whatever love is available.

As you aged, you were taught (typically unconscious) values around things like intelligence, achievement, preferred emotional states, relationships, and other people. Your greatest need is to receive love so you learn to identify with these values even if they are not positive.

Many adults have not evolved past the ego-centric state. They still believe things are happening to them. If you believe you have no control in your life, or that outside events are controlling your life ego work will be particularly beneficial.

The ego is the constructed self

Your ego is a very rigid identity. It has to be. It’s created a set of beliefs, patterns, and ideas, that most people label “personality.” Your ego is very defensive about your identity. Anything outside of confirmed thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors will be rejected.

If you’d like confirmation on this, watch a debate. Debaters do not change each other’s minds. They go back and forth affirming their own beliefs. The ‘winner’ of the debate is simply the person who confirms your bias. Their ego defends a belief, and yours defends that person as the winner because they confirm a concept you have tied to your identity.

The problem with this is conflicting opinion is what allows us to grow.

Conflicting opinions or concepts often bring people to a place of anger because the ego feels the most out of control when it’s challenged.

It feels like an attack on self.

Technically it is, because the ego creates the illusion that our opinions and beliefs make you who we are.

This lead to a lot of insecurity and low self worth. In a fragile state, the ego works overtime to ‘defend us.’

The ego overcompensates in the fragile state with the following: – strong emotional reactivity – false confidence (overcompensation) – black and white/rigid thinking – rejection of any idea that conflicts with the ego beliefs – extreme competition (a belief that another person’s success hinders their own) – constant comparison to others – judgement of others (mocking, insulting, threatening) – analysis paralysis (obsessive thoughts that stop you from completing any action)

Why does Ego Work Matter?

Ego work is about returning to your true nature . So far, your lives have been functioning in patterns that you haven’t consciously chosen. They were chosen for you.

Ego work is a a new opportunity to choose.

You are not looking to “kill” the ego, or deny its existence. The ego is your protector and has been a part of your psyche since you were a small child to help you cope. You want to learn to accept your ego as something separate from yourself.

When I talk about this on Instagram, I always get the question “who are we?”.” You are conscious awareness, or attention. You are the awareness who has the ability to view other parts of yourself. This ability is uniquely human. You can think about your thoughts. You can reflect on your actions.

You are softening the ego .

Picture ego as a hyper vigilant guard. This guard is constantly scanning the environment for someone or something attempting to do harm. Anything that conflicts with the ego’s perception of self becomes an ‘enemy.’ You have been over identifying with traits for so long that your ego’s main function is to keep that identity alive.

By doing this work, you give the your guard (ego) a break and allow for new experiences to come into your awareness.

Without a guard you can decide how you feel, what you think, and how you choose to respond rather than having your ego decide that for you.

Confidence is the result of detaching from your ego state.

Step 1: Allow your Ego to Introduce itself

Until this point in your life, you’re mostly unaware of your ego. When you’re unconscious (95% of the time) your ego is running the show. Gone unchecked for most of your adult lives, your ego only gets stronger.

Only through observing can you ego soften.

A softened ego brings a state of inner peace.

The ego does not like to be observed, so step 1 is highly uncomfortable. Getting through this discomfort takes work, so be patient. You can do this first thing when you wake up or before bed it takes under 1 minute.

1. Find a quiet place with no distraction where you feel most comfortable 2. Close your eyes and take one deep breath 3. Repeat this affirmation: “I am safe and I choose a new way to experience myself as separate from my ego”.

Here we are priming the brain to relax into this work. It can be very uncomfortable to view yourself in this new way. You might feel sensations in your body or racing thoughts telling you not to practice the exercise. All of this is totally normal, fear-based resistance from the ego. Seeing your ego is the first step to taking away his power and decision making control.

Step 2: Have a Friendly Encounter

This step is about becoming aware of what you say after the word “I.” This is your ego speak. You’ve been repeating this for many years, so observing what you actually speak about yourself will be surprising.

The most friendly way to meet your ego is when it’s not triggered.

Set an intention to witness your ego with one conversation you have today.

Notice every thing you say after the word “I.”

Here are prompts: Note these once a day. There is no right or wrong way to do these. You want to let your stream of consciousness flow without editing or analyzing.

1. How often do I speak about myself? 2. What was an adjective I used to describe myself? 3. Did anything in that conversation bring any uncomfortable emotional reaction? Describe it.

Congrats! You just witnessed your ego. Practice is key with this new skill. The repetition will prime new pathways in the brain and allow observation to come more easily with time.

Step 3: Name Your Ego

When we name our ego we take a powerful step in seeing the ego as separate from us. Choose any name that comes to you intuitively.

Now name your ego.

My ego’s name is Jessica. I watch Jessica come and go. Sometimes I don’t see Jessica for a few hours and then she comes around with reckless abandon. Certain things make Jessica extra touchy and that is ok.

By naming your ego, you’ve separated from it. Now you’ll see the ego coming and going. You’ll be surprised just how often it comes and how quickly it goes. This is an observation stage. Practice this stage for at least 2 weeks.

You may have major breakthroughs during this stage.

With time you’ll not only be aware of your ego, you’ll know what situations to expect your ego to be triggered. This expanded awareness allows you to see past the ego and to choose a response more aligned with your authentic self.

Step 4: Meet the Triggered Ego

Do not begin this steps until you have done Step #2 for at least two weeks.

What is a trigger? A trigger is an emotional response not equal to the event.

For example: Your sister says “You look tired” at a family get together. You respond sarcastically: “Of course I look tired I’ve been working 60 hours a week and raising a child. Must be nice to have tons of free time. Don’t worry, next time I’ll be out of a Cosmopolitan magazine.”

What her sister said objectively: “You look tired.”

What the ego heard: “She’s always so rude and condescending to you. It’s because she’s been jealous of you your whole life. Now she think she’s little miss hot shot.”

The ego is a master story teller . It has thousand and thousand of emotional events and experiences logged that you can’t even consciously remember. This story serves to protect you, but it always keeps you tied to your past experiences.

Notice the next time you are triggered. You will know you are triggered when you have a faster heart beat, you feel like yelling/shutting down, or have a feeling you might ‘lose’ it.

Here are the prompts: 1. I felt the emotion of _________ when triggered. 2. I felt the emotion of _________ when ______________________. 3. The event of _________ means ___________________ to me.

Here is an example: I felt the emotion of anger when triggered. I felt the emotion of anger when my husband left the dishes in the sink. The event of leaving the dishes in the sink means that I am not worthy of consideration .

Ok, so now you understand that the objective reality was that dishes were left in the sink. This caused the emotion of anger because of an underlying belief that I am not worthy of consideration.

Here, the ego felt a core emotion (unworthiness.) This was painful, and since you’ve never learned to process emotion, the ego came to project it outwards. Your ego prefers to dump emotions on others, rather than feel a painful emotion within yourself.

Step 5: Appreciate and Accept the Ego

This step takes a lot of practice. This will not come intuitively to you, so you’ll have to repeat it many times before it feels natural.

Here are the prompts: I appreciate that my ego came to protect me from ( emotion felt during trigger ) It is ok for me to experience ( new emotion you want to feel ) I no longer have to attach events in my life to meanings of ( emotion felt during trigger ) I am ( affirm new emotion )

This is how it will look: I appreciate that my ego came to protect me from unworthiness. It is OK for me to experience worthiness . I no longer have to attach events in my life to meanings of unworthiness 4. I am worthy

Step 6 (advanced/optional)

Watch a YouTube video of something that is the polar opposite of your viewpoint. Sit with the emotions it brings up. Allow yourself to listen to the words objectively. See if you can hear beyond your emotional response.

This practice is very transformative.

Final words

I know I threw a lot at you. I know that this might feel overwhelming. Or, like it ‘wont work’ or you’re not capable, or you just simply don’t want to. Your ego has been challenged, so you might have some major resistance coming up. Allow yourself to just see the resistance.

This work is difficult. It is life-changing.

Commit to it because you deserve to be free.

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What Is Ego: Understanding the Concept and Its Significance

What Is Ego

What is ego? It’s a question that has intrigued philosophers, psychologists, and spiritual seekers for centuries. Ego can be defined as the part of our identity that gives us a sense of self-importance and separates us from others. It’s the voice in our head that tells us we are separate individuals with unique desires, beliefs, and experiences.

Our ego plays a crucial role in shaping our personality and guiding our behavior. It helps us navigate through life by providing a framework for understanding ourselves and the world around us. However, an inflated or unchecked ego can also lead to arrogance, selfishness, and an inability to connect with others on a deeper level.

Understanding the nature of ego is essential for personal growth and cultivating healthy relationships. By recognizing when our ego is at play, we can become more aware of its influence on our thoughts, emotions, and actions. This awareness allows us to make conscious choices rather than being driven solely by the demands of our ego.

In conclusion, exploring the concept of ego offers valuable insights into human psychology and interpersonal dynamics. By delving into this topic further, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and foster greater empathy towards others. So let’s embark on this journey together as we unravel the mysteries of ego and its impact on our lives.

Understanding the Concept of Ego

Let’s delve into the intriguing concept of ego and explore its various dimensions. Ego, in psychological terms, refers to an individual’s sense of self-identity and self-importance. It is the part of our psyche that gives us a distinct personality and helps shape our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

  • The Ego as a Protective Mechanism

One aspect of ego is its role as a protective mechanism. It acts as a shield, safeguarding our self-esteem and defending against threats to our identity. For example, when we face criticism or experience failure, the ego may step in to protect us from feeling inadequate or vulnerable. It can manifest as defensiveness or denial in order to maintain a positive self-image.

  • The Ego’s Influence on Perception

Another fascinating aspect of ego lies in its influence on how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. Our egos filter information based on preconceived notions about who we are and what aligns with our beliefs and values. This filtering process can lead to biases and distortions in our perception, shaping our reality through the lens of our ego-driven perspectives.

  • Balancing Individuality and Interconnectedness

While ego serves important functions in maintaining personal identity, it can also create barriers to meaningful connections with others. When unchecked, excessive egocentricity can hinder empathy, cooperation, and collaboration with those around us. Finding a balance between asserting one’s individuality while recognizing the interconnectedness of all beings is crucial for fostering healthy relationships and societal harmony.

  • Cultivating Self-Awareness

Developing self-awareness is key to understanding the role of ego in our lives. By observing our thoughts, emotions, and reactions without judgment or attachment, we gain insights into how ego influences our perceptions and actions. Through practices like mindfulness meditation or journaling, we can begin unraveling the layers of ego and cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves.

  • Transcending the Ego

While ego is an integral part of our human experience, some philosophical and spiritual traditions propose transcending it for a greater sense of peace and interconnectedness. This involves recognizing that our ego-driven desires, attachments, and fears can lead to suffering and dissatisfaction. By shifting our focus from self-centeredness to compassion for all beings, we can start to break free from the limitations imposed by ego.

In conclusion, understanding the concept of ego requires exploring its protective nature, its influence on perception, finding balance between individuality and interconnectedness, cultivating self-awareness, and contemplating transcendence. By gaining insights into our own egos, we can navigate life with greater authenticity, empathy, and wisdom.

The Role of Ego in Psychology

When it comes to understanding human behavior, the concept of ego plays a significant role in the field of psychology. The ego, according to Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic theory, is one of the three components of our psyche, alongside the id and superego. It serves as the mediator between our primitive instincts (id) and societal norms (superego), working to balance our desires with reality.

One way to think about the role of ego is by considering its function as a defense mechanism. The ego helps us navigate the conflicts that arise within ourselves and in relation to others. For example, when we experience anxiety or fear , the ego steps in to protect us by employing defense mechanisms such as repression or denial. These mechanisms allow us to cope with distressing thoughts or emotions that might otherwise overwhelm us.

In addition to its defensive functions, the ego also plays a crucial role in shaping our identity and sense of self. It helps us develop a coherent narrative about who we are and how we relate to others. Through processes like identification and self-reflection, the ego contributes to our formation of personal values, beliefs, and attitudes.

Furthermore, the ego influences our decision-making process by weighing various factors such as social expectations, personal goals, and ethical considerations. It helps us strike a balance between fulfilling our individual needs while also considering how our actions may impact those around us.

Understanding the role of ego can shed light on why individuals behave differently in certain situations. Some people may have a stronger sense of self-identity driven by their egos, while others may struggle with low self-esteem or an inflated sense of importance due to imbalances within their egos.

In summary, the role of ego in psychology is multifaceted. It acts as a mediator between conflicting aspects of our psyche while also contributing to our overall identity formation and decision-making processes. By recognizing its influence, psychologists can better understand human behavior and help individuals navigate the complexities of their inner worlds.

Ego Development Throughout Life

When we consider the concept of ego development throughout life, it becomes clear that our sense of self evolves and matures as we navigate different stages and experiences. Here are a few examples illustrating this fascinating journey:

  • Example: A toddler who asserts their independence by saying “no” to parental instructions demonstrates the emergence of their ego as they begin to establish personal boundaries.
  • Example: A teenager exploring various interests and experimenting with different personas is actively shaping their ego as they strive to define themselves separate from their family or peer group.
  • Example: An individual who experiences setbacks in their professional life may have to reevaluate aspects of their identity tied to career achievements. This process can lead to introspection and personal growth as they redefine their goals and priorities.
  • Example: An elderly person who engages in activities like volunteering or mentoring others demonstrates an ongoing process of ego development by continuing to contribute meaningfully despite potential limitations associated with aging.

It’s important to note that ego development is a complex and individualized process, influenced by a multitude of factors such as culture, personality, and life circumstances. These examples provide just a glimpse into the diverse pathways of ego development throughout life.

Signs and Symptoms of an Inflated Ego

When it comes to understanding ego, recognizing the signs and symptoms of an inflated ego is crucial. An inflated ego refers to an excessive sense of self-importance, superiority, or entitlement. It can have a negative impact on relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Here are a few examples of signs that may indicate someone has an inflated ego:

  • Constant Need for Validation: Individuals with an inflated ego often seek external validation to boost their self-esteem. They constantly crave praise, recognition, and admiration from others. This need for validation can be seen through their constant bragging about achievements or seeking approval in every aspect of their lives.
  • Disregard for Others’ Opinions: People with an inflated ego tend to dismiss or belittle the opinions and ideas of others. They believe they are always right and refuse to consider alternative viewpoints. This attitude can lead to strained relationships as they struggle to acknowledge the value of differing perspectives.
  • Dominating Conversations: Have you ever encountered someone who monopolizes conversations? That could be a sign of an inflated ego at play. Individuals with this trait often interrupt others, dominate discussions, and steer conversations back towards themselves. They feel the need to be the center of attention at all times.
  • Lack of Empathy: Another common symptom is a lack of empathy towards others’ feelings or experiences. People with an inflated ego find it difficult to understand or relate to others’ emotions because they are too focused on themselves and their own needs.
  • Excessive Pride: While having pride in one’s accomplishments is healthy, an inflated ego takes pride to another level entirely. These individuals excessively boast about their achievements, talents, possessions, or social status as a way to inflate their own importance in the eyes of others.

It’s important to note that everyone may display some degree of these behaviors occasionally; however, when they become chronic and disrupt daily life, it may indicate an inflated ego. Recognizing these signs can be the first step towards personal growth and developing healthier relationships with others.

Understanding the signs and symptoms of an inflated ego allows us to reflect on our own behavior and make necessary changes to cultivate a more balanced sense of self. It helps foster empathy, open-mindedness, and humility – qualities that promote personal growth and strong connections with those around us.

The Impact of Ego on Relationships

When it comes to relationships, the impact of ego can be significant. Ego, defined as a person’s sense of self-importance and self-esteem, plays a crucial role in how individuals interact with one another. Here are a few examples illustrating the influence of ego on relationships:

  • Communication Breakdown: One common consequence of unchecked ego is a breakdown in communication. When individuals prioritize their own needs and opinions over those of their partner, it creates a barrier between them. Ego-driven communication often involves defensiveness, criticism, and refusal to listen. This can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and ultimately hinder the growth and development of the relationship.
  • Power Struggles: Ego can also fuel power struggles within relationships. When both partners have strong egos and refuse to compromise or yield to each other’s perspectives, conflicts arise. These power struggles can manifest in various ways such as competing for control, seeking dominance, or unwillingness to admit fault or apologize. Over time, these power dynamics erode trust and intimacy within the relationship.
  • Inability to Empathize: An inflated ego can hinder an individual’s ability to empathize with their partner’s emotions and experiences. Instead of understanding their feelings and offering support, someone dominated by their ego may dismiss or belittle their partner’s concerns as insignificant or unwarranted. This lack of empathy creates distance between partners and undermines emotional connection.
  • Lack of Accountability: Ego-driven individuals often struggle with taking responsibility for their actions or acknowledging mistakes they’ve made in the relationship. They may deflect blame onto others or make excuses rather than accepting accountability for any harm caused by their words or behaviors.
  • Difficulty in Resolving Conflict: Healthy relationships require effective conflict resolution skills where both parties are willing to work towards finding mutually beneficial solutions. However, when ego takes center stage during conflicts, resolution becomes challenging. The focus shifts from finding common ground to proving one’s superiority or defending one’s ego, prolonging the conflict and preventing meaningful resolution.

Understanding the impact of ego on relationships is crucial for fostering healthy and fulfilling connections. By recognizing when our egos are influencing our behaviors and attitudes, we can take steps to cultivate humility, empathy, and effective communication within our relationships.

Strategies for Managing and Balancing Ego

When it comes to managing and balancing ego, there are several effective strategies that can help us navigate this complex aspect of our personality. By recognizing the importance of self-awareness and practicing humility, we can cultivate a healthy relationship with our ego. Here are a few examples:

  • Cultivate Self-Awareness: Developing self-awareness is crucial in understanding when our ego starts to take control. By paying attention to our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we can catch ourselves in moments of egotistical tendencies. Mindfulness practices such as meditation or journaling can be powerful tools in increasing self-awareness.
  • Practice Humility: Embracing humility allows us to acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers and that we can learn from others. It involves being open-minded, accepting feedback gracefully, and valuing different perspectives. Engaging in acts of service or volunteering can also be humbling experiences that remind us of our place in the world.
  • Seek Feedback: Actively seeking feedback from trusted sources can provide valuable insights into how our ego may be affecting our interactions with others. Surrounding ourselves with individuals who aren’t afraid to challenge us and provide constructive criticism helps keep our ego in check.
  • Embrace Collaboration: Instead of always striving to be the center of attention or taking credit for everything, embracing collaboration allows us to recognize the strengths and contributions of others. Working as part of a team fosters an environment where everyone’s ideas are valued equally.
  • Focus on Personal Growth: Shifting the focus from external validation to personal growth is essential for managing ego effectively. Setting goals that align with our values and continuously working towards them helps us stay grounded while avoiding excessive pride or arrogance.

Remember, managing ego is an ongoing process that requires effort and self-reflection. By implementing these strategies into your daily life, you’ll be able to strike a balance between confidence and humility, fostering healthier relationships and personal growth.

Cultivating Self-Awareness to Tame the Ego

Developing self-awareness is a crucial step in taming the ego and fostering personal growth. By honing our ability to observe and understand our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we gain valuable insights into our own patterns and tendencies. This heightened self-awareness allows us to recognize when our ego is taking control and enables us to consciously choose a different response.

Here are a few examples of how cultivating self-awareness can help us tame the ego:

  • Mindfulness Practices: Engaging in mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing exercises allows us to anchor ourselves in the present moment. Through these practices, we become more attuned to our thoughts and feelings without judgment or attachment. This awareness helps us identify when the ego is driving our actions and empowers us to respond with greater clarity and intention.
  • Reflective Journaling: Keeping a journal where we regularly reflect on our experiences, thoughts, and emotions can be an effective tool for developing self-awareness. By writing down our inner dialogue, we gain perspective on recurring patterns or triggers that may be linked to the ego’s influence. This practice also provides an opportunity for introspection and self-discovery.
  • Seeking Feedback: Actively seeking feedback from trusted individuals in our lives can provide valuable insights into how others perceive us. Their perspectives can shed light on blind spots or areas where our ego might be hindering growth or relationships. Embracing constructive criticism with an open mind fosters humility and supports personal development.
  • Embracing Vulnerability: Being willing to embrace vulnerability requires courage but can be transformative in taming the ego. When we allow ourselves to show up authentically, including acknowledging mistakes or admitting when we don’t have all the answers, we create space for genuine connection with others while diminishing the need for validation driven by the ego.

By incorporating these practices into our lives, we can gradually cultivate self-awareness and gain mastery over the ego’s influence. Remember, taming the ego is an ongoing process that requires patience and dedication. As we develop greater self-awareness, we become more attuned to our true selves and can navigate life with a sense of authenticity and purpose.

The concept of ego is a complex and multifaceted one. Through our exploration in this article, we have delved into its definition, characteristics, and impact on our lives. Let’s recap some key takeaways:

  • Ego is the self-identity or sense of self that individuals develop throughout their lives. It encompasses our thoughts, beliefs, desires, and perceptions about ourselves.
  • While ego can be essential for individual growth and personal development, it can also become a hindrance when it becomes inflated or overly attached to external validation.
  • The ego often manifests itself through various behaviors such as defensiveness, arrogance, and the need to control or dominate others.
  • Understanding and managing our egos is crucial for fostering healthy relationships and promoting personal well-being. By becoming aware of our own ego-driven patterns and tendencies, we can work towards cultivating humility, empathy, and authentic connections with others.
  • It’s important to note that ego is not inherently good or bad—it simply exists as part of the human experience. The key lies in finding balance and harmony between our individual identities and the interconnectedness of all beings.

Moving forward from this discussion on ego, I encourage you to reflect on your own experiences and interactions with others. How has your ego influenced your actions? Are there areas where you could benefit from letting go of excessive pride or defensiveness? Remember that self-awareness is a powerful tool for personal growth.

In conclusion, Understanding the complexities of ego allows us to navigate our inner landscape with greater clarity and compassion. By acknowledging its presence in ourselves and others, we can foster healthier relationships while staying true to who we are at our core.

Remember: embracing humility does not mean diminishing oneself but rather celebrating the interconnected tapestry of humanity.

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Perhaps Freud’s single most enduring and important idea was the human psyche ( personality ).

Freud’s personality theory (1923) saw the psyche structured into three parts (i.e., tripartite), the id, ego, and superego, all developing at different stages in our lives.

These are systems, not parts of the brain, or in any way physical, but rather hypothetical conceptualizations of important mental functions.

According to Freud’s psychoanalytic theory , the id is the primitive and instinctual part of the mind that contains sexual and aggressive drives and hidden memories, the super-ego operates as a moral conscience, and the ego is the realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego.

Although each part of the personality comprises unique features, they interact to form a whole, and each part makes a relative contribution to an individual’s behavior.

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What is the Id?

The id is the primitive and instinctive component of personality.

The id is a part of the unconscious that contains all the urges and impulses, including what is called the libido, a kind of generalized sexual energy that is used for everything from survival instincts to appreciation of art.

The id is the impulsive (and unconscious ) part of our psyche that responds directly and immediately to basic urges, needs, and desires. The personality of the newborn child is all id, and only later does it develop an ego and super-ego.

The id engages in primary process thinking, which is primitive, illogical, irrational, and fantasy-oriented. This form of process thinking has no comprehension of objective reality, and is selfish and wishful in nature.

The id operates on the pleasure principle (Freud, 1920), that every unconscious wishful impulse should be satisfied immediately, regardless of the consequences.

When the id achieves its demands, we experience pleasure, and when it is denied, we experience ‘unpleasure’ or tension.

The id comprises two kinds of biological instincts (or drives), including the sex (life) instinct called Eros (which contains the libido) and the aggressive (death) instinct called Thanatos.

Eros, or life instinct, helps the individual to survive; it directs life-sustaining activities such as respiration, eating, and sex (Freud, 1925). The energy created by the life instinct is known as libido.

In contrast, Thanatos, or death instinct, is viewed as a set of destructive forces in all human beings (Freud, 1920).

When this energy is directed outward onto others, it is expressed as aggression and violence. Freud believed that Eros was stronger than Thanatos, thus enabling people to survive rather than self-destruct.

The id remains infantile in its function throughout a person’s life and does not change with time or experience, as it is not in touch with the external world.

The id is not affected by reality, logic, or the everyday world, as it operates within the unconscious part of the mind.

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What is the Ego?

Freud’s ego is the rational part of the psyche that mediates between the instinctual desires of the id and the moral constraints of the superego, operating primarily at the conscious level.

The ego is “that part of the id which has been modified by the direct influence of the external world.” (Freud, 1923, p. 25)

The ego is the only part of the conscious personality. It’s what the person is aware of when they think about themselves and what they usually try to project toward others.

The ego develops to mediate between the unrealistic id and the real external world. It is the decision-making component of personality. Ideally, the ego works by reason, whereas the id is chaotic and unreasonable.

The ego develops from the id during infancy. The ego’s goal is to satisfy the id’s demands in a safe and socially acceptable way. In contrast to the id, the ego follows the reality principle as it operates in both the conscious and unconscious mind.

The ego operates according to the reality principle, working out realistic ways of satisfying the id’s demands, often compromising or postponing satisfaction to avoid negative consequences of society.

The ego considers social realities and norms, etiquette, and rules in deciding how to behave.

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Like the id, the ego seeks pleasure (i.e., tension reduction) and avoids pain, but unlike the id, the ego is concerned with devising a realistic strategy to obtain pleasure.

The ego has no concept of right or wrong; something is good simply if it achieves its end of satisfying without causing harm to itself or the id.

Often the ego is weak relative to the headstrong id, and the best the ego can do is stay on, pointing the id in the right direction and claiming some credit at the end as if the action were its own.

Freud made the analogy of the id being a horse while the ego is the rider. The ego is “like a man on horseback, who has to hold in check the superiour strength of the horse.” (Freud, 1923, p. 15)

If the ego fails to use the reality principle and anxiety is experienced, unconscious defense mechanisms are employed to help ward off unpleasant feelings (i.e., anxiety) or make good things feel better for the individual.

The ego engages in secondary process thinking, which is rational, realistic, and orientated toward problem-solving. If a plan of action does not work, then it is thought through again until a solution is found.

This is known as reality testing and enables the person to control their impulses and demonstrate self-control, via mastery of the ego.

An important feature of clinical and social work is to enhance ego functioning and help the client test reality through assisting the client to think through their options.

According to Freudians, some abnormal upbringing (particularly if there is a cold, rejecting ‘schizogenic’ mother) can result in a weak and fragile ego, whose ability to contain the id’s desires is limited.

This can lead to the ego being ‘broken apart’ by its attempt to contain the id, leaving the id in overall control of the psyche.

What is the Superego?

Freud’s superego is the moral component of the psyche, representing internalized societal values and standards. It contrasts with the id’s desires, guiding behavior towards moral righteousness and inducing guilt when standards aren’t met.

The superego incorporates the values and morals of society, which are learned from one’s parents and others. It develops around 3 – 5 years during the phallic stage of psychosexual development .

The superego develops during early childhood (when the child identifies with the same-sex parent) and is responsible for ensuring moral standards are followed.

The superego operates on the morality principle and motivates us to behave in a socially responsible and acceptable manner.

The superego is seen as the purveyor of rewards (feelings of pride and satisfaction) and punishments (feelings of shame and guilt), depending on which part (the ego-deal or conscious) is activated.

The superego is a part of the unconscious that is the voice of conscience (doing what is right) and the source of self-criticism.

It reflects society’s moral values to some degree, and a person is sometimes aware of their own morality and ethics, but the superego contains many codes, or prohibitions, that are issued mostly unconsciously in the form of commands or “don’t” statements.

The superego’s function is to control the id’s impulses, especially those which society forbids, such as sex and aggression.

It also persuades the ego to turn to moralistic goals rather than simply realistic ones and strive for perfection.

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The superego consists of two systems: The conscience and the ideal self.

  • The conscience is our “inner voice” that tells us when we have done something wrong.

The conscience can punish the ego by causing feelings of guilt. For example, if the ego gives in to the id’s demands, the superego may make the person feel bad through guilt.

The superego is also somewhat tricky, in that it will try to portray what it wants the person to do in grandiose, glowing terms, what Freud called the ego-ideal, which arises out of the person’s first great love attachment (usually a parent).

  • The ideal self (or ego-ideal) is an imaginary picture of how you ought to be, and represents career aspirations, how to treat other people, and how to behave as a member of society.

The assumption is that children raised by parents experience love conditionally (when they do something right), and the child internalizes these experiences as a series of real or imagined judgmental statements.

Behavior which falls short of the ideal self may be punished by the superego through guilt. The super-ego can also reward us through the ideal self when we behave ‘properly’ by making us feel proud.

Guilt is a common problem because of all the urges and drives from the id and all the prohibitions and codes in the superego. There are various ways an individual handles guilt, which are called defense mechanisms .

If a person’s ideal self is too high a standard, then whatever the person does will represent failure. The ideal self and conscience are largely determined in childhood by parental values and how you were brought up.

Examples of the Id, Ego, and Superego

Skipping a workout:
  • The id : I want to skip my workout because I feel lazy and just want to relax.
  • The superego : I shouldn’t skip the workout because it’s essential for my health and discipline.
  • The ego : I can do a shorter workout today and make up for it with a longer session tomorrow.
Buying an expensive item:
  • The id : I want this luxury bag now because it’s stylish and will make me feel good.
  • The superego : I shouldn’t spend so much on a bag when I could save or use that money for more essential things.
  • The ego : I’ll save a portion of my salary for a few months, and if I still want it, I’ll buy the bag as a reward.
Reacting to criticism:
  • The id : I’m upset and want to snap back immediately because they hurt my feelings.
  • The superego : I should remain calm and composed, taking criticism professionally and not personally.
  • The ego : I’ll consider the feedback, see if there’s any truth to it, and respond diplomatically, asking for clarification if needed.

Therapeutic Implications

Freud believed that mental illness is caused by conflicts in the unconscious between the id, ego, and superego.

Neuroses, according to Freud, are caused by an overdominant superego, the resultant defense mechanisms implemented by the ego in an attempt to regain control.

Because the defense mechanisms are being over-used, too much psychic energy is used and allows the maladaptive behavior to emerge. Psychoses, in contrast, are caused by an overdominant id.

According to the psychodynamic approach , the therapist would resolve the problem by assisting the client in delving back into their childhood and identifying when the problem arose.

Identifying the problem can bring this into the conscious, where the imbalance can be resolved, returning equanimity between the id, ego, and superego.

Consequently, the defense mechanisms will only operate at the maintenance level, and the mental illness will be cured.

However, psychoanalysis , the method used to produce this new balance, is time-consuming and costly. Furthermore, no objective measurement can be taken to demonstrate that a cure has been effected; it is reliant on the client’s subjective report of their improvement.

There is concern that clients may claim they are better, not because they are, but because of the time and expense involved. 

Freud, S. (1920). Beyond the pleasure principle . SE, 18: 1-64.

Freud, S. (1923). The ego and the id . SE, 19: 1-66.

What is the difference between the ego and the id?

The id is the primitive, impulsive part of our psyche driven by instincts and desires, while the ego is the rational, conscious part that mediates between the id’s demands and the realities of the external world.

The ego balances the id’s desires with the superego’s moral guidance, striving to maintain harmony within the human psyche.

What is an example of the id ego superego?

An example of the id, ego, and superego interaction can be illustrated through a person on a strict diet who is tempted by a box of delicious donuts at work. The id impulsively desires immediate gratification by indulging in the donuts.

At the same time, the superego reminds the person of their commitment to a healthy lifestyle and instills feelings of guilt for considering breaking the diet.

The ego mediates between the id’s cravings and the superego’s moral standards, potentially allowing the person to eat just one donut as a compromise, demonstrating its role in maintaining psychological balance amidst conflicting desires.

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What is the Ego? Should it Be Destroyed?

by Aletheia · Nov 10, 2023 · 109 Comments

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In almost every nook and cranny of the spiritual field, you’ll hear the ego spoken about with contempt and sometimes it is plain demonized.

Many people carry the belief that the ego needs to be destroyed, muzzled, or even killed.

But do we need to destroy the ego? What is the ego, really? And furthermore, what can you  learn about your own ego?

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What is the ego, how is the ego formed, the ego and duality, the folly of demonizing the ego, why the ego isn’t you, what is that presence, how to untangle yourself from the web of illusion.

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The ego is basically your identity, or who you think you are.

In other words, your ego is usually constructed of a name, a personality, and a story. Within this personal story is a collection of memories, beliefs, ideas, and sensations about “who you are,” “where you came from,” “what you’re good and bad at,” “what you’ve experienced,” and on, and on, and on, ad infinitum.

In the words of renowned spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle,

Ego is no more than this: identification with form, which primarily means thought forms.

When we identify with a thought or story in our head, the substance of the ego is born.

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The ego is a veil between what you think you are and what you actually are. You live under the illusion of the mind, totally unaware that you are directed by a great big load of stories! — Isira Sananda

There are three main causes of our ego formation:

  • Primal protection
  • Social conditioning
  • Psychological security

First is primal protection.

Without an ego, without being able to say “this is me” and “this isn’t me” how can we possibly stay alive?

For example, if you had no sense of self, there would be nothing stopping you from drowning, getting hit by a car, getting eaten by an animal, having a limb severed, and so forth. There would be no capacity to differentiate yourself from a bus, a knife, a lake, a road, and so on!

To protect ourselves, we need a sense of self or ego.

“But what about enlightened folk?” you may wonder. “They don’t need a sense of self and look how blissful they are!”

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Here, the distinction needs to be made in the sense that those who experience spiritual enlightenment don’t lose their ego, they simply stop identifying with it. No ego at all would mean no ability to stay alive!

Second is our social conditioning.

Since childhood, we’re taught that we’re “separate” from others and life itself.

As we grow up, we’re taught to believe in and identify with the thoughts that run through our heads by those who model this behavior around us. We’re also taught to almost automatically adopt our family’s belief system and values, as well as society’s wider definition of “who we are” or “should be.”

As a result of being taught (or conditioned) to believe that we’re separate individuals, we experience fear and suffering. Instead of simply experiencing life in its pure simplicity and Wholeness , we filter life through our minds. And as we know, the mind loves to create division – it is inherently dualistic!

Third is psychological security.

As psychotherapist and author Matt Licata writes ,

… ego is a process of dissociation and splitting of to use psychological jargon, in the attempt to prevent overwhelming anxiety from pouring into conscious awareness. Or, in more spiritual terminology, it is the attempt to keep us out of the otherwise naked reality of how open, unknown, and groundless our lives truly are, where anything could happen at any time.

Other than protecting our physical bodies, the ego also protects us psychologically. Like a shell that protects a chick, the ego keeps us contained and protected – and yet simultaneously trapped.

Imagine if a baby chick was left without a shell while its tender body was still forming. It wouldn’t fare well at all and would probably die within an hour (or less)!

In many ways, we’re the same. We need that shell of the ego while our Souls are still growing, evolving, maturing, and deepening. Like a chick that needs a shell in order to break through it, we need to first form an ego in order to then transcend it.

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Not having some kind of ego structure would render the world a tremendously overwhelming place in which we would be paralyzed to do anything.

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A little earlier I mentioned the word “duality” and its connection with the ego.

But what is duality ?

Duality is essentially the state of separation or twoness . Duality can only and ever exist through the mind, which itself is flawed, myopic, and limited in scope.

In essence, duality is the very substance of the ego.

I n duality, we essentially “split” or divide life into words, ideas, beliefs, and concepts that ultimately limit and suffocate the present moment.

Examples of duality include filtering life through the lenses of “right/wrong,” “good/bad,” “pretty/ugly,” “holy/sinful,” “love/hate” etc.

How does duality harm us?

As a product of living in duality, we create untold amounts of suffering for ourselves because we’re no longer open to the endless vastness and Oneness of life.

Instead, our lives become centered around judgment, condemnation, and fear. And as a result, we alienate and destroy others who we perceive as being “bad,” “wrong,” and “sinful” to protect our ideas of what is “right” and “holy.”

The more deeply we’re entrenched in duality – the essential nature of the ego – the more we experience problems such as hatred, anger, depression, paranoia, anxiety, and many other hellish states of being like the Dark Night of the Soul .

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Not only do we sever ourselves from others, but we’re cut off from ourselves as well. Anything within us that we perceive as being “evil/bad/wrong/sinful” we suppress, repress, and deny the existence of.

As a result of this repressed energy, our Shadow Selves (or our rejected inner “dark side”) grow more and more twisted, destructive, and depraved. Unless transformed through shadow work , this intense suffering is ultimately expressed in our relationships and the world at large.

When all is said and done, the fact is that our physical world is an expression of our collective internal torment. When separated from the fullness of the Oneness that is Life, our lives become an expression of our inner emptiness .

Simply taking a look at the violence, murder, poverty, greed, bigotry, mental illness, and environmental degradation around us reveals how profoundly lost we are as a race.

We’re lost because we have lost touch with the truth of who we are. We’re drowning in the ego.

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In light of what we’ve just discussed, it’s very easy to start believing that the ego is bad.

In fact, some spiritual teachers teach that the ego needs to be “destroyed.” But here’s the thing: this is just another trick of the mind!

I’ve heard so many people in the spiritual community condemn the ego and speak of it with such great resentment . However, the belief that our egos are “evil” or need to be “killed/destroyed” is just a reflection of the mind stuck in duality!

Only the ego wants to “kill” the ego!

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In the words of Alan Watts,

Don’t try to get rid of the ego-sensation. Getting rid of one’s ego is the last resort of invincible egoism! … When this feeling of separateness is approached and accepted like any other sensation, it evaporates like the mirage that it is.

We need to understand on our spiritual awakening journeys that the ego isn’t “good” or “bad,” it’s a neutral force . Whether our ego causes joy or pain is all up to how it’s used.

The ego is a tool – it’s a biological, psychological, and social survival mechanism. Without it, we wouldn’t be able to function in this world. How else could we tell the difference between ourselves and the oncoming train or truck that’s headed our way? We need our egos to live in this physical body.

The ego is also crucial because it exists as a vehicle for our spiritual growth ; methods such as yoga, catharsis, dancing, energy work, and meditation can serve as doorways through which we can remember and reclaim our True Nature .

We’ll explore how to approach the ego in a healthy and more illuminated way next.

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At some point on your spiritual path , you may have heard the expression: “the ego is an illusion.” But what does this mean?

The ego is an illusion, and therefore isn’t really “you,” because it is always changing and has no real solidity or objectivity.

In other words, how can anything within you that is subject to birth, change, and decay really be you?

Let’s try an experiment. Write down on a notepad or on your phone who “you” think you are. You can always stop reading and return back to reading this section after you’ve finished.

Take a break. Really. Do the experiment now.

Now that you’ve done the experiment, read over your words. Likely, you would have written something along the lines of, “I am Jane Doe. I’m a wife, mother, and friend. I’m a fighter, a dreamer, and a spiritual seeker. I am 38 years old, have three children, and am a skilled artist.”

See this description of you? This is your main personal story; the backdrop of your life, of who/what you think you are.

Why is the ego an illusion? The ego is an illusion because it is simply that: a story or narrative created in the mind.

Let’s use some self-inquiry and apply some questions to your statements about who you think you are:

  • How can you be a name if it can easily be changed? You could have very well been born into a different family that named you something else. 
  • How can you be a body if it is constantly aging, changing, disintegrating, and can be replaced with other parts? Your red blood cells live for four months, your white blood cells live for more than a year, your skin cells live for 2-3 weeks … all cells within you are constantly dying and being renewed. How can you really be your body or looks?
  • How can you be a personality when it is constantly fluctuating and transforming? Think back to your personality 5 years ago, then 15 years ago. Did you have the exact same personality that you do now?
  • How can you be your emotions when they are constantly coming and going, ebbing and flowing? Not only that but do you really control your emotions? Where do they come from? Do you really plan or control them?
  • How can you be your thoughts when they always changing? Not only that, but do you really control your thoughts? Where do they come from? Do you really plan or control them?
  • How can you be your beliefs when what you believed 10-30 years ago isn’t what you believe today? Your beliefs are influenced by your conditioning, upbringing, and society … how can they be “you” or “yours”?
  • How can you be your memories when they come, go, and even alter? Did you know that there is such a thing as “ false memory ”? When remembering the past, the mind has a tenuous and colored perception that is subject to change and alteration. How can your memories be you?

As we can see, everything that we unquestionably believe we are  isn’t really us – it is frail, changeable, and in truth, lacking in solidity. So who or what really defines “me” or “you”? What has been there all along that has never changed ?

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What has been there to witness everything that has happened in your life? What never changes? What is the most fundamental core of who we are?

Explore this question for a few moments and you’ll realize that it’s …

Consciousness .

Consciousness is the fabric of all things . In fact, even science has shown that everything at its core is energy vibrating at different levels.

In our human experience, Presence, Consciousness, or Spirit manifests as the energy that composes every form.

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The easiest way to experience this Presence that is you, and always has been you, is through meditation. Meditation, or quieting the mind, helps you to become simply aware of your thoughts, and the space beneath those thoughts. That space that is both empty and full at the same time, is You.

Another common method that has been used since the dawn of time to experience this Truth of Being, or ego death is through psychedelic shamanic plants and brews, such as Ayahuasca, Psilocybin Mushrooms, and Peyote. Although it’s helpful to take such herbs to experience yourself as Life or Consciousness itself, it isn’t compulsory.

These plants are simply doorways into the Universal Experience of Spirit that we are.

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It can take a while to reach a deep realization that you’re not the ego, and usually much more time (or lifetimes) to experience this as an ongoing integrated reality .

The discovery that everything you “believe you are” is, in reality, false can be unsettling, disturbing, confusing, saddening, or, more positively, liberating . So don’t be surprised if you experience a lot of resistance to this article. It’s normal.

After all, the ego’s job is to protect itself and ferociously guard the belief that you’re separate from other people and life itself – in its mind, this is a matter of biological survival.

To really understand the beauty and ultimate freedom that comes with seeing through the ego, you can’t stay on a purely intellectual level. You must have actual experiences of Consciousness itself.

Even just a single moment of Consciousness can help you to discover for yourself that it is the most liberating, pure, peaceful, compassionate, expansive, and loving state possible.

In fact, Consciousness itself is the very embodiment of love, peace, and freedom. You are this embodiment. You are the Truth that you have been seeking – but not the “you” sense of self or personality: the You with a capital “Y” that is beyond a separate sense of self.

Untangling yourself from the web of ego illusion is a process that requires patience, self-discipline, and dedication. This process isn’t for trendy “spirit junkies” – it is for sincere spiritual seekers.

If you’d like some spiritual practices to explore that can help you experience moments of pure Consciousness, here are some paths:

  • Read through the self-inquiry questions above regularly. Ask yourself, “Is this (thing that I think is me) really me?” Although emotions, thoughts, personality, and body are experienced by you, they are not truly you because they are subject to birth, death, and change.
  • Practice spiritual meditation , breathwork , or some form of catharsis like exercise or dancing to release any repressed energy within you. Do this before traditional meditation to make accessing the stillness within easier.
  • Meditate each day. Try 15 minutes first, then move on to 20+ minutes. Remember: the purpose of meditation isn’t to “get” anywhere or “achieve” anything. It is simply the practice of sitting with whatever arises in you.
  • Regularly affirm to yourself, “I am Consciousness” throughout the day. Feel that truth seep into your bones and very core with each breath.
  • Explore the way your ego influences your life with compassion. Inner work practices such as shadow work and journaling are powerful ways of becoming more mindful of your ego.
  • Read into the experience of The Spiritual Awakening Process to get further guidance. We created this book to help support you on the spiritual path. 
  • Practice mindfulness on a daily basis. Mindfulness is a vital practice that will help to ground you in the present moment. After all, the only place you can experience Consciousness is in the Now (not in thoughts about the past or future, which are just that: thoughts!)

The spiritual awakening journey is one that requires courage, radical honesty, and the willingness to let go of all that you are not.

So what is the ego? The ego is a teacher, one that you carry with you each day.

When seen in this light, the ego is the most powerful and persistent teacher we have to wake us up to the Truth that has always been here, and will always be here.

What thoughts or unique realizations have you had about the ego? I’d love to hear them below in the comments.

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AnonymousPerson

In meditation circles, it’s often said that “You have to build up the ego, before you attempt to destroy the ego,” and generally it’s similar to Loner Wolf’s idea that you should avoid shadow work (or confronting your flaws/weaknesses) before gaining some level of confidence, self-love, and self-worth, because confronting your dark side will only leave you feeling more discouraged, rather than motivated to work with your weaknesses, if you don’t have a strong enough ego yet. You see, in adolescence, we’re supposed to gain a separate identity from our parents and our family in general, but this is a natural step we must take before reconnecting to others around us more. It’s because we need to find our own separate identity, separate goals, separate likes/dislikes, separate passions, and separate beliefs, from those you grew up around with, such as teachers, neighbors, same age friends, but especially those in the family. Then, only after you’ve found your own separate identity, can someone be ready to explore “being one with the universe,” without the risk of losing their sense of who they are entirely. Though in many spiritual circles, a lot of people skip this step, and were never able to …  Read more »

Jared Osborn

Considering the ego is duality, we can choose all positive thoughts. I subscribe to the notion that thoughts create feelings (or emotions) that, in turn, create actions which lead to our results. Now toss in neutral circumstances (triggers, which may have a correlation but not causation) and the results create a feedback loop to the circumstances. Does that sound about right? If so, what keeps one falling back into lower level vibrations once the negative thought is pinpointed? Is it that difficult to change a belief? I struggle with this part…

Carlos

The sense of oneness must be the greatest feeling ever. I felt every word inside me, it was an unimaginable feeling. I have a question, is marihuana comsidered one of those doorways to the universal expirience?

George

How does understanding your consciousness and neutralizing your ego lead to love? What is “love”? I have never liked that word. It has been rendered meaningless to me by misuse and confusion. In fact I have a problem with most of the language usually used to describe the spiritual self discovery process. And something about the individuals that seem to always be at the forefront of any religious or spiritual dogma have been off-putting to me. They have in fact blocked my progress on this area for a long time. I have come to the conclusion that language and other people are a hinderence to advancing in spiritual self discovery. The whole thing is beyond language and can take place only between the individual and the universe.

Talon

I’m glad I found this.

Jessica

Ich arbeite momentan auch an meiner spirituellen Meisterschaft, und habe dazu ganz andere Erkenntnisse sammeln können. Meines Erachtens nach ist die Bezeichnung “Ego” eine große Täuschung, die mit voller negativer Absicht in die Welt gesetzt worden ist! Denn wir leben in einem Dualen-Wertesystem und das steht für zwei Seiten! Einmal die große Lichtvolle Seite und die negative geistige Seite die sich auf unserer Welt besonders austobt. Das Ego ist meiner Persönlichen Meinung nach ein geistiges Portal durch das sich negative geistige Wesen an uns heften und und uns Menschen (Seelen) steuern und manipulieren können. Diese Wesen aus den niederen geistigen Bereichen heften sich aber nicht willkürlich an, sondern es hat etwas mit Ursache und Wirkung zu tun! Ausserdem spielen uns die negativen geistigen Anhaftungen eine große Illusion vor! Und wir Menschen (Seelen) leben Zeitlebens von den Zugeständnissen und falschen Gefühlen unserer geistigen Anhaftungen! Spirituelle Meisterschaft bedeutet demnach nicht sein kleines ICH zu überwinden, sondern sein geistiges Portal zu schließen! Es gibt kein kleines ICH, sondern negative geistige Anhaftungen die uns eine sehr große Illusion vorspielen!! Die Seele öffnet die Tür zu den himmlischen Gefilden, das Ego (Portal) ist das Tor zu dem niederen geistigen Sphären!

Elizabeth

I have been abused from my remembence And I am starting to go to psychoanalysis for past life childhood And just extreme trauma so I have been told some things about ego so I’ll learn

Kim

This is one of the clearest, easy to assimilate, non-guilt causing articles around what the ego is that I have ever read. Thank you. There’s a lot to consider and I like that. I am aware of myself as consciousness and am grateful for that, but I have struggled to understand just how the ego affects my understanding of myself as I(truly)Am. Your words have shined some light on those thoughts today. That’s rare. I am grateful. Deep love to you, all ways. ♥️

Silvia

Wow! I really love this article! Is the best and most complete explanation from the Ego. Thank you very much for this.

What Is the Ego, and Why Does It Matter?

Published by Charles A. Francis on January 1, 2019 January 1, 2019

By Christa Hogan

“The Ego is an exquisite instrument. Enjoy it, use it–just don’t get lost in it.” ~ Ram Dass

I was recently pondering the changes I’ve seen in myself over the past year since I resolved to explore mindfulness , bring awareness to my thoughts, and regularly practice meditation . As I was recognizing and feeling grateful for the changes—being less reactive, becoming more aware of my thoughts, getting overwhelmed less by life and people—a thought popped into my mind.

“You know,” it went, “eventually you’re going to slip up and react to someone or something in a way that you’re not proud of. What then? It just goes to prove that this mindfulness stuff doesn’t work.”

At the same time there was an awareness that came in with a different message. “No problem,” the awareness said, completely unfazed. “That will just be an opportunity to explore where your ego is being challenged and what it means.”

It only took a second. But it was really profound for me. A thought that might have derailed me for days before was almost instantly neutralized by an inner awareness . Which was proof in and of itself that mindfulness and meditation ‘works.’

But that also started me thinking about ego. What is ego? How do I recognize it? What do I do about it? So I started researching because that’s what writers do when they have questions.

So What Is Ego?

With spiritual practices like Buddhism, eliminating suffering through conquering the ego and embracing our true self is a central goal. But what is ego?

Ego is our false self, the person we become so other people will like us, admire us, and accept us. Ego is also who we tell ourselves we are without question or who other people have told us we are.

Our true self is the “I am.” Ego is what comes after the “I am.” I am smart. I am pretty. I am a Democrat. I am American etc.

Ego is that part of us that is overly preoccupied with survival, accumulation, and success. It works to build an identity that both sets us above everyone else and helps us to fit in.

Eckhart Tolle brilliantly describes ego in his book, A New Earth:

“An ego that wants something from another — and what ego doesn’t — will usually play some kind of role to get its ‘needs’ met, be they material gain, a sense of power, superiority, or specialness, or some kind of gratification, be it physical or psychological. Usually people are completely unaware of the roles they play. They are those roles. Some roles are subtle; others are blatantly obvious, except to the person playing it. Some roles are designed simply to get attention from others. The ego thrives on others’ attention. . . such as recognition, praise, admiration, or just to be noticed in some way, to have its existence acknowledged.”

Roles We Play

So it’s worth taking a moment to look at some of the roles we might be playing that don’t fully reflect our true selves. The trouble isn’t that we play these roles, but that we aren’t aware we’re playing them, or that we become overly identified with them.

For instance, we might react badly when our children misbehave because it challenges our idea of ourselves as good parents. When instead we can choose not to take our kids’ choices personally, and recognize that they are developing into their own separate individuals.

Someone who identifies with a certain position or amount of wealth might spiral into depression when they suffer a financial setback, or lose a job. When instead they can recognize that the loss is painful, but that they are not any less valuable or worthy because of it.

Or we might find ourselves vigorously defending our political views at the cost of personal relationships because we’ve become so associated with the role of “I am a liberal” or “I am a conservative.” When instead we can recognize that we are surely both right and both wrong in some ways.

Recognizing Ego

Here are some other ways ego might show up in our lives. Each behavior stems from our ego trying to satisfy its need for attention and desire for fulfillment:

  • complaining, bitterness, and resentment
  • people pleasing or demanding/needing respect
  •   materialism, accumulation, and greed
  •  competition, a need to dominate others
  •   dissatisfaction with what we have
  •  vanity or self-hatred
  •  judgments and opinions
  •  superiority and prejudice
  •  defensiveness, feeling attacked
  • need for hierarchy and being in control
  • dualistic, black-and-white thinking

Feeling Not Enough

We can also recognize ego from its core “I am” message: “I am not enough.” This can also show up as I can not have enough. I can not do enough.

Our ego is always hustling for more, so many of us walk around with vague feelings that we don’t measure up no matter what we do. Our ego is never satisfied with what we already have and causes us to become anxious or even depressed when we aren’t actively working toward the next accomplishment, goal, relationship, or other object of desire. So we keep working, keep accumulating, keep striving, while our planet, relationships, and bodies pay the price.

Past and Future Tense

Likewise, our ego is uncomfortable in the present moment. In fact (spoiler alert), awareness of the present moment is the death of ego. Our ego is at play when we find ourselves wrapped up in obsessive thoughts about the past. How someone wronged us. What we wished we really said in retort. How miserably we failed at something. How much they let us down.

Ego is equally fixated on the future — the next vacation, the perfect relationship that might never happen, the dream house, or retirement.

The ego loves certainty. It loves being in control. It loves feeling special. It loves attention. It loves being right and having something to look forward to. What the ego hates? Now. This present moment right here.

Making Peace with Our Egos

So now that we know what ego is and how to spot it at play in our lives, what do we do about it? I don’t think there’s any point in talking about killing our ego or trying to conquer it. We’re already too often at war with ourselves, and there is nothing the ego loves more than a good fight. And while some monks spend decades meditating to achieve freedom from their false self, most of us don’t have that kind of time.

Instead, we can build regular practices into our lives that bring awareness to our egos, ground us in the present moment, and free us from repeating reactive egoic patterns that cause harm to us and our world.

Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation can reduce stress and increase happiness. Mindfulness meditation has the added benefit of making us more aware of the present moment and the thoughts that habitually cross our minds. Mindfulness meditation also helps us to slow down and pay better attention to our lives. We can then become more aware of the roles we’ve learned to play but that no longer serve us well.

Present Moment Awareness

Tolle says, “All that is required to become free of the ego is to be aware of it, since awareness and ego are incompatible. Awareness is the power that is concealed in the present moment.” Drawing our minds back to the present moment each time our thoughts threaten to slip into the past or run ahead to the future is a powerful tool. Being present in the now keeps us from becoming overwhelmed by our ego’s relentless demands.

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Ego is always hungry for more and loves to tell us that we are never enough. So gratitude is another powerful tool we can use. When we begin to feel as if we’re missing out or failing to measure up, we can take a moment to express our gratitude for what already is.

Ego is given to flying off the handle, behaving reactively, and getting defensive. When we feel our ego being triggered, instead of berating ourselves for not being mindful or more mature, we can exercise curiosity.

It’s difficult at first to become curious in the moment. With practice, we can look back on our worst reactive moments. Then we can say, “Huh, my ego reacted really strongly. I wonder what that was all about?” Often, if we stay open and curious we can uncover some really important but spurious messages we’ve told ourselves about our identity and begin to work to let them go. Only when we can uncover the root of our reactions will we see real change.

Resist Defending Our Egos

Tolle warns that the ego does not respond well to criticism and will react by becoming defensive or accusatory. This only further strengthens the ego, but hampers our personal growth. Instead, as difficult as it sounds, Tolle advises that we resist the urge to jump to our own defense right away, and instead simply absorb and consider the criticism. Or as Jesus said, “Turn the other cheek.” That way when we do finally react it comes from a place of awareness, and not ego.

Loving Kindness

Ego wants us to feel superior to other people. So as we start to grow more aware of our own ego, we’ll most likely begin to recognize it at play in other people and start to feel a little smug. So we should resist the urge to force enlightenment on others. Instead, we can exercise patience and kindness, remembering that everyone else is on the same journey and that not so long ago we walked in their shoes.

The reward for all of this ego work is that we can live from the place of our truest selves. When we’re no longer being driven to distraction by our ego, we have more energy and awareness to direct that energy. We’re more creative and more at peace with ourselves and those around us. Most importantly, we can find more joy in the present moment and begin to truly enjoy our lives. What better reward is there?

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Christa C. Hogan has written for a diverse audience, including adults and children, since 2002. She pairs her insatiable curiosity, love of people, and strong researching skills with her extensive writing and editing experience. To find out more about her, visit christahogan.com .

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Everything to know about ego death — from what it is to how it happens.

Sarah Regan

Call it enlightenment , call it a transcendence; ego death is one of the most profound (and sometimes frightening) experiences someone can have in their life. We asked the experts what ego death really means, how it happens, and how to achieve it.

What is the ego?

To understand ego death, you first have to understand the ego . According to psychotherapist Annette Nuñez, Ph.D., LMFT, the ego is a sense of self that you develop at a young age. And as Shannon Kaiser, spiritual author of the forthcoming book  Return to You , adds, the ego relates to your feelings about your own importance and abilities.

"It's how you identify and what you identify with—like who you are as a person, whether it's gender identity, what your beliefs are, your morals," Nuñez explains.

She notes that famed psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud was the first to popularize the idea of ego in the modern world, and in psychoanalytic theory, it's defined as "the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity."

Without getting too caught up in the psychological aspects, you can think of your ego as the image you hold of yourself, which affects everything from how you perceive the world to how you behave around others.

What is ego death?

Ego death is the (often instantaneous) realization that you are not truly the things you've identified with, and the "ego" or sense of self you've created in your mind is a fabrication. In some instances, it can offer a profound feeling of peace and connectedness with all that is, as the walls of separation the ego creates come crumbling down.

In other cases, and especially if your ego resists this "death," the experience can be very scary and result in a sense of detachment or disassociation, Kaiser says. "Often a complete loss of subjective self-identity occurs, causing depression, anxiety, and fear—but the more in touch one is with their spiritual core, the easier the awakening will be," she adds.

Ultimately, ego deaths are not a casual experience but rather quite the opposite. It changes the course of people's lives entirely. When one comes through on the other side having released all the things they've identified with, with only their true spirit left, Kaiser says, they begin to live from a place of pure love.

How ego death happens

Ego deaths are different for everyone. With that said, Nuñez notes some common reasons or "triggers" for ego death include psychedelics , certain meditations , sound baths , as well as out-of-body experiences .

For some people, though, an ego death could happen somewhat spontaneously, not unlike the initial moment of a spiritual awakening , as you have that first realization that your soul is something different from your ego.

From there, ego deaths tend to have a handful of common steps or stages.

Stages you may go through

  • The spiritual awakening: The first stage of ego death is the initial moment of awakening in which you wake up from the ego's power over you, Kaiser says.
  • The dark night of the soul: As you navigate your newfound understanding, you begin to "question everything and realize things are not as they seem or as we've been taught," Kaiser says, noting this can feel like a complete loss of identity. "The space in between can feel like a death, and it is, energetically," she adds.
  • Exploration & curiosity: In this stage, you begin to explore more and fill the void with things that are in line with your soul or highest self. As Kaiser explains, "It's important to note that although ego death seems like a killing of the ego, what actually happens is a  loss of being subjected  to its 'power' over you. As your ego dies off, you start to live from a place of more love and light."
  • Soul growth & enlightenment: As the dust settles and you soften into your new way of being, you realize more about your true nature and live in a higher vibrational state , Kaiser says. "You have cleared many of your old patterns and are now embodying much more light and a simpler, more purified divine you," she adds.

How to achieve ego death

If you're looking to experience ego death for yourself, it's first important to look at what your objectives are, why you want to get rid of your ego, and how you plan to do it. Again, this is not a casual experience and should not be taken lightly.

With all that said, some ways to "induce" ego death involve spiritual practices that help you reach transcendental states, such as meditation or breathwork exercises, Nuñez explains. Certain retreats and workshops may offer specific practices tailored for this, she notes.

It is also worth noting that psychedelics are a popular avenue for ego death, with 2016 research 1 finding a strong correlation with psychedelics and ego death. The study authors write, "Ego-dissolution is a key phenomenological feature of the psychedelic experience," adding that participants who reportedly had ego deaths often also reported feeling at one with the universe during a psychedelic experience.

And of course, there are other, less instantaneous ways to begin fostering a more enlightened way of being without suddenly shattering your ego, such as studying spiritual texts , learning from healers and spiritual thought leaders, and putting what you learn into practice.

But ultimately, as spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle writes in A New Earth , "The greatest miracle is the experiencing of your essential self as prior to any words, thoughts, mental labels and images. For this to happen, you need to disentangle your sense of 'I,' of Beingness, from all the things it has become mixed up with."

The takeaway

Experiencing ego death is life-changing, intense, and sometimes terrifying, but it can also lead you to your soul's nature and allow you to live a life in harmony with your deepest truth. So whether you're in the throes of your own ego death right now, or are just getting started , in the words of Kaiser, "There is no need to worry—the real you is emerging."

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7 Signs of a fragile ego & how to fix it

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Our ego or self-esteem is how worthy we think we are. It’s part of our self-concept and self-image- how we view ourselves.

A person with a fragile ego has weak and inconsistent self-esteem . Their sense of self-worth is volatile and subject to the whims of life circumstances and others’ judgments.

Seeking validation from others is natural for humans. Our self-esteem is raised when others think highly of us. External validation builds internal validation.

Those with fragile egos, however, are over-reliant on external validation. Somehow, the external validation they receive doesn’t consolidate into internal validation that could make them less reliant on the former.

People with fragile egos have an unstable sense of self. They keep changing their opinions and behaviors to gain approval from others. Because their self-esteem rests on shaky grounds, they need continual reinforcement in the form of reassurance.

Signs of a fragile ego

The over-reliance of people with fragile egos on external validation makes them behave in peculiar ways. If you suspect someone you know has a fragile ego, the signs to look for are:

1. Defensiveness

We all get defensive from time to time, and usually for good reasons. But a person with a fragile ego gets defensive unnecessarily . They will overreact to the slightest perceived or honest criticism.

This happens because criticism shatters their ego. They constantly want to be praised by others because their self-worth heavily relies on other people.

2. Indecision

A person with a fragile ego lacks confidence. They struggle to make their own decisions. They constantly seek validation for their ideas, opinions, and decisions. If they’re on the verge of making what they think is a good decision, they may back out at the last moment because someone wasn’t on board with them.

3. Holding grudges

When people are hurt by those close to them, they’re likely to get over the hurt quickly. Their ego hardly gets bruised in the process.

In contrast, when you hurt someone with a fragile ego, you break the core of who they are. You destroy their whole world. Since their well-maintained ego is everything to them, they won’t forget your mistakes and will bring them up ages later.

4. Unable to handle failure

People with fragile egos can’t handle failure and take it harshly. 1 They feel worthless if they fail because they think failure brings them down in the eyes of others. The last thing they want.

5. Perfectionism

People with fragile egos overcompensate for a weak and inconsistent self by deluding themselves into thinking they’re perfect beings. Beneath the mask of inflated self-image and narcissism lies a weak self-identity.

Perfectionism feeds into their fear of making mistakes and being seen as unworthy or less than perfect.

6. Closed to feedback

A person with a fragile ego is closed to negative feedback. They can’t stand it. As a result, they hardly improve. Again, admitting they need improvement would mean they’re less than perfect.

Their general attitude towards well-meaning advice by others is:

“Yeah, whatever.”

In the rare event where they listen to negative feedback, they take it personally. They interpret any feedback as a reflection of their self. 2

If you tell them, “Your work was bad”, they’ll take it to mean, “You are bad”.

7. Impressing others

They jump at every opportunity to impress others. They’ll take on projects they’re unprepared for or will take charge in a situation where they shouldn’t have just so they can impress others.

They’ll go to great lengths to impress others so they can keep feeding their hungry ego.

Effects of having a fragile ego

It’s easy to see the harm that having a fragile ego could cause in one’s professional and personal life.

Perfectionism is the ultimate productivity-killer.

Being closed to feedback and unable to handle criticism means staying at the same level and never improving.

Indecision impedes proactivity, and the fear of failure leads to never trying anything new.

Seeing feedback as a threat and ascribing ill-intent to people where they meant no harm sours relationships.

Not apologizing for your mistakes makes you come across as too self-centered.

How to overcome a fragile ego

The antidote to a fragile ego is a stable ego. Those with a stable ego or self-esteem maintain a consistent self-image.

How do you achieve a consistent self-image?

It comes down to how you build your identity. The more your identity is built on stable foundations, the less volatile it is.

You can identify the things you identify with by asking yourself the “Who am I?” question. The answer to that question will reveal the structure of your identity.

Do you identify with your job? (“I’m a lawyer.”)

Spouse? (“I am Angelina Jolie’s husband.”) Wealth? (“I am a millionaire.”) Country? (“I am an American.”)

These are the things people usually identify with. The problem is, when you lose the things you identify with, you lose who you are. You lose your ego.

When you base your identity on more solid foundations like your personality, skills, and values, you develop a strong sense of self.

Sure, you may lose that job, but your ego doesn’t shatter. You still see yourself as a skilled person who can get another job.

Another strategy is to base your identity on multiple things. This way, your self-esteem remains well-diversified, and if there’s one point of failure, your ego still stays strong.

Of course, it’d be ideal if your identity is built on many stable foundations, but an identity built on a combination of stable and volatile foundations can work. What you want to avoid is an identity built on only volatile things.

Additionally, you’d need to develop healthy beliefs around perfectionism, failure, and criticism. This will take some mental work, but you’ll get there.

Next time you complete a less than perfect project, remind yourself that it’s okay not to be 100% perfect all the time. With practice, this thinking pattern will become habitual.

Similarly, you can learn to handle failure and criticism well by reminding yourself that they’re critical for growth and improvement. When you experience this first hand, you’ll no longer need reminders.

Over time, you’ll develop a stable sense of self and gain what researchers call self-concept clarity. 3

You’ll become less and less reliant on the approval and validation of others.

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  • Grover, S. L. (2021). Different respect motivates different people: How self-esteem moderates the effects of respect on performance.  Personality and Individual Differences ,  168 , 110312.
  • Stucke, T. S., & Sporer, S. L. (2002). When a grandiose self‐image is threatened: Narcissism and self‐concept clarity as predictors of negative emotions and aggression following ego‐threat.  Journal of personality ,  70 (4), 509-532.

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