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Backed by Malevolence and with a clear idea of who they are and what they want to achieve, things are on the up for Manchester’s Guilt Trip. And with second album Severance, they’re a band hungry for even more…

Guilt Trip: “We’re trying to see how far we can push the sound we have”

This summer, Guilt Trip have played some of Europe’s biggest festivals, carving their name into the minds of those who love all things heavy. Playing a unique brand of hardcore that sees them delve into elements of thrash, old-school hardcore and fist-pumping metal, the Manchester quartet are growing at an impressive rate. In fact, guitarist Jak Maden suggests they might have even been “overachieving” compared to where they expected, or hoped , they might be at this stage in their career.

The band’s 2019 debut River Of Lies laid the very foundation for what Guilt Trip are all about: a DIY sound backed by heavy riffs with a sprinkling of grooves. Indeed, their blueprint lives in hardcore, but fast-forward just a few years to now, and they’re entering much bigger leagues with new album Severance. “We’ll probably always be a hardcore band,” begins vocalist Jay Valentine, “but I think we’re just trying to see how far we can push the sound we have.

“We’ve not changed our sound over the years to make it more listenable, in order to achieve this and that,” he adds. “It’s just the music we’ve wanted to play.”

“I think we’ve matured,” considers Jak. “It’s been the natural path to not sound like a traditional hardcore band. A hardcore sound is so broad, and it’s impossible to really say, as there’s so many different sounds within the scene.”

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Said scene is bursting with life right now – you only have to cast your eyes over June’s incredible Outbreak Fest line-up to see how eclectic and exciting things are. And yes, while it’s ultimately a style of music, this is also a mindset: one that allows you to be whatever makes you feel free.

This is a concept they embraced when they shared recent Severance single Sweet Dreams, with the aim of “setting ourselves apart from the traditional hardcore aesthetic” and focusing on their own art. Put simply: they want to do things the Guilt Trip way.

“We’re not remotely bothered about what other bands are doing,” says Jay. “I mean, if there’s bands that we like then we want to see them do well, but it’s not something that really crosses our mind when we’re doing our own thing. We focus on what we want to sound like – it’s what we want to do and we’re doing it for us.

“It’s amazing to have people that like us and support us, and we couldn’t do it without them,” the singer stresses. “But at the end of the day, it is our hobby, it’s our livelihood and it’s what we want to do. We’re going to do it the way that we want, regardless of what all the other bands around us are doing.”

A hobby that is seemingly having its just rewards. Coming into their own and with the confidence of a much more experienced band, Guilt Trip get the sense that something is happening here. At the same time, though, having signed to fellow hardcore favourites’ Malevolence ’s MLVLTD label for this record, they also feel rejuvenated, and like they’ve gotten a completely fresh start.

“I think we’re all quite terrified or excited at the same time,” smiles Jak. “It feels like the first real album we’ve done and the only one where we’ve got some pressure on our shoulders.”

“Yeah, we feel like we’re kind of starting again,” agrees Jay, “because we’re coming into a slightly different world than we’ve been used to.”

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It’s also the first time they’ve felt like they’ve really had the record label experience. That’s thanks in no small part to Malevolence’s efforts and support throughout the process.

“This is the first time I feel like we’ve had the proper label treatment,” explains Jak. “We’ve always been scared of having the control taken away from us by a bigger entity, or being made to do this and that. But it’s nothing like that at all. They’ve given us all the support that we could have asked for, and I don’t think the LP would be as good without them because they’ve put so much into us. Now, we’re trying to give something back, and it’s just made us work little bit harder, and push that little bit more.”

“They’ve been amazing to us,” agrees Jay. “Really, everything good that’s come to us over the last year or so has pretty much been all through them. We’re grateful that they’ve showed their support.”

In a true full-circle moment, Guilt Trip will be supporting Malevolence – along with Sylosis and Justice For The Damned – on their massive tour of the UK and Europe in just a couple of months’ time. And we can guarantee that’ll be a trip worth taking.

Severance is out now via MLVLTD. Catch Guilt Trip in the UK supporting Malevolence in November – get your tickets now .

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Guilt Trip have announced their signing to MLVLTD MUSIC ; the label operated by Malevolence . 

Alongside the signing, the band have released a video for their new single Tearing Your Life Away .

“We’ve all swallowed the blood from biting our tongues and it doesn’t taste nice. Sometimes you’re all out of patience and it’s time to remind someone they’re living in your world. This will be the first time working with MLVLTD on a release of music and we are all super excited about it. Both coming from a DIY background and both beginning our careers in the same scene in the north of England – we have many shared experiences which make it very easy for us to see eye to eye, not only creatively, but also in how the record will be delivered to the public.”

The live performance video includes footage from their Bloodstock Festival appearance and London Dome show which was shot by Luigi Sibona .

The track is taken from the band’s second album which is set for release in 2023.

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A "CHEEKY" restaurant owner has been slammed after "guilt-tripping" customers for ordering tap water after forking out £30 each on a roast dinner.

Jane Breeds and her boyfriend visited Danish steakhouse Köd London, north east London , to try their famous all-you-can eat roast.

Restaurant owner Morten has defended his menu note and dubbed it Danish humour

But, they were shocked after reading a small message on the menu.

It read: "You can have tap water but please remember we're running a restaurant, not a charity - wink, wink.

"If you want to have just tap water, we encourage you to donate £1 to Red Cross. Everybody wins."

Jane was outraged upon discovering the "wild" request and deliberately ordered a jug of tap water for the table.

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The fuming 27-year-old still left a generous 15 per cent tip but blasted the restaurant on social media.

"It's a bit cheeky to imply that I'm treating the restaurant as a charity when I'm spending £60," she said.

"When I first saw the menu I laughed and told my boyfriend that we're not ordering any drinks.

"He asked why and I passed him the menu. He found it funny too and agreed to just stick to tap water.

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"I was given a jug and I didn't request for it to be refilled but I'm sure they would have done so.

"[The donation] is a nice idea but I don't think I should be guilt-tripped into donating to charity just because I only wanted to drink tap water.

"I didn't make a donation but I did happily pay the 15 per cent tip that is automatically added on though as the staff were great.

"They didn't say anything about us only drinking tap water and gave great service."

'We're not forcing people to buy drinks'

Owner Morten Orterd, from Denmark , has hit back in response to his disgruntled customer's "snaky" message.

Tensions escalated when he replied to her X/Twitter post calling his restaurant out for "guilt tripping" customers.

The 38-year-old explained that he is actually an ambassador for the Red Cross charity and Jane's message was deterring visitors from paying for drinks.

Dad-of-two Morten, said: "It's a really good offer that people like but it's not possible to make an offer like this if everyone just has free tap water.

It's a bit cheeky to imply that I'm treating the restaurant as a charity when I'm spending £60." Jane Breeds Customer

"This is a way in Danish humour to tell people to also buy something to drink so we can continue to have this great offer.

"We're not forcing people to buy drinks. They can have free tap water.

"I understand [they find it cheeky] but to come to a restaurant and have tap water I think it would be nice to also donate something. That shouldn't be a bad thing.

"It's the first time I saw something critical about it. I will of course think about it for the future but I don't think we should change something because one person doesn't agree.

"There are still some things we need to learn about Danish humour working in the UK."

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Jane's debate sparking tweet read: "Made a point of not ordering drinks at Köd steakhouse by Liverpool Street after seeing this on the menu. Wild behaviour lol."

In response the owner penned: "Thanks for [the] attention. You forget to say this is only for our Sunday special where we offer an all-you-can-eat roast for £30.

"We can't do that if everybody only do tap water. We try to add humour, not offence. Tap water is still free, Red Cross donation [is] optional!"

There are still some things we need to learn about Danish humour working in the UK." Morten Orterd Owner

The fuming customer accused the owner or "turning more people off ordering drinks" with his "snarky" reply.

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But, Morten shrugged her reply off and added: "We are a Danish restaurant and maybe it's too much Danish humour, maybe it's not.

"We'll see. So far, you are the first we have heard a negative comment from. But we will take it into consideration in our evaluation. Thank you for the feedback."

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running a restaurant, not a charity - wink, wink, we need to make money.

"You know who is running a charity, though? Red Cross is! If you want to have just tap water, we encourage you to donate £1 to Red Cross. Everybody wins.

"All jokes aside, our founder, Morten P. Ortwed, proudly serves as a Red Cross ambassador.

"Each year, the Red Cross selects entrepreneurial individuals to launch exciting and profitable projects to raise funds.

"We would be absolutely delighted if you could support this cause. Please inform your waiter, and thank you immensely."

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A guilt trip means causing another person to feel guilt or a sense of responsibility to change their behavior or take a specific action. Because guilt can be such a powerful motivator of human behavior, people can wield it as a tool to change how others think, feel, and behave. 

Sometimes this might involve leaning on something that someone already feels guilty about. In other cases, people might induce feelings of unjustified guilt or responsibility to manipulate the other person's emotions and behaviors.

If someone has ever made you feel bad about something you’ve done (or didn’t do) and then used those bad feelings to get you to do something for them, then you have experience with guilt tripping.

This article discusses the signs, types, and impact of guilt trips. It also covers some of the steps you can take to cope with this type of behavior.

Signs of a Guilt Trip

Guilt trips can be intentional, but they can also be unintentional. There are chances that you have even guilt-tripped people into doing things before.

Sometimes guilt tripping behavior can be easy to spot, but it can also be much more subtle and difficult to detect.  Some key signs that others may be guilt-tripping you include:

  • Making comments suggesting that you have not done as much work as they have done
  • Bringing up mistakes that you have made in the past
  • Reminding you of favors they have performed for you in the past
  • Acting as if they are angry but then denying that there is a problem
  • Refusing to speak to you or giving you the silent treatment
  • Making it clear through their body language , tone of voice, and facial expressions that they disapprove of what you were doing
  • Suggesting that you “owe” them
  • Engaging in passive-aggressive behavior
  • Making sarcastic comments about your efforts or progress

It is important to note that this type of indirect communication can occur in any interpersonal relationship. Still, it is more likely to take place in relationships that are marked by close emotional connections.

It can show up in romantic relationships, but guilt trips may also be utilized in family relationships, parental relationships, and even work relationships.

Types of Guilt Tripping

There are many different types of guilt trips that people may utilize depending on the ultimate goal or purpose of the behavior. Some of the different purposes of a guilt trip include:

  • Manipulation : Sometimes, the primary goal of a guilt trip is to manipulate someone into doing something that they normally would not want to do.  
  • Conflict avoidance : In other cases, people may use guilt trips to avoid directly talking about an issue. It allows them to get what they want without having to engage in direct conflict.
  • Moral education : Guilt trips can also be a way of getting someone to engage in a behavior that the individual feels is more moral or “right.”
  • Elicit sympathy : In some cases, guilt-tripping allows the individual to gain the sympathy of others by casting themselves in the role of someone who has been harmed by the actions the other person is supposed to feel guilty about.

Guilt isn't always a bad thing. While often troubling and unpleasant, it can serve an important role in guiding moral behavior. When people experience guilt, they can fix their mistakes and avoid repeating the same errors in the future.

Researcher Courtney Humeny

A guilt trip does not appear to induce the benefits of guilt, such as making amends, honesty, and mutual understanding.

Impact of Guilt Trips

Invoking feelings of guilt to change someone’s behavior can have a wide variety of effects. Whether guilt is wielded intentionally or not, it prevents healthy communication and connections with others. Some of the most immediate effects of this form of covert psychological manipulation include:

Damage to Relationships

Research suggests that guilt trips can take a toll on close relationships. One study found that people hurt by their partner's criticism were more likely to use those hurt feelings to make their partner feel guilty and offer reassurances.

However, the study also found that the partner who had been guilt-tripped into offering assurances was more likely to feel significantly worse about the relationship.

In other words, inducing feelings of guilt may work to get your partner to do what you want—but it comes at a cost. It can impair trust and cause the other person to feel that they are being manipulated. 

One of the reasons why guilt trips can poison relationships is because they can lead to lasting feelings of resentment.

"A guilt trip imposes aversive states associated with guilt, along with feelings of resentment from feeling manipulated," Humeny suggests.

A single occasion of someone using a guilt trip to alter your behavior might not have a serious impact on your relationship. Repeated use of guilt trips can leave you feeling bitter.

If you feel that your partner is always going to guilt you into something that you don't want to do, it can decrease intimacy, reduce emotional closeness, and ultimately make you start to resent your partner.

Research suggests that appeals to guilt are a common type of persuasion technique . However, while guilt can compel people to take certain actions, it can also sometimes backfire.

Low-level guilt tends to motivate people to act on the persuasive message. High levels of guilt, however, often fail due to what researchers call "reactance." 

"An individual in a state of reactance will behave in such a way as to restore his freedom (or, at least, his sense of freedom), for example, by performing behaviors that are contrary to those required," explain researchers Aurélien Graton and Melody Mailliez in a 2019 article published in the journal Behavioral Sciences .

In other words, guilt trips can backfire and lead people to behave opposite how someone else wants them to act. For example, someone guilt-tripping you into calling them more often might actually result in calling them less.

Poor Well-being

Feelings of excessive guilt are associated with several mental health conditions, including anxiety, depression , and obsessive-compulsive disorder . Being subjected to guilt trips may contribute to the development or worsening of such conditions.

Experiencing guilt can also lead to many immediate and unpleasant emotions and symptoms such as anxiety, sadness, regret, worry, muscle tension, and insomnia.

This type of covert manipulation may also sometimes contribute to the development of a guilt complex , which is a persistent belief that you have done (or will do) something wrong.

Over time, guilt can lead to feelings of shame. Shame can affect your self-image, which can then contribute to social withdrawal and isolation.

How to Cope With Guilt Tripping

There are a number of tactics that can be helpful when dealing with a guilt trip. Some steps you can take include:

  • Acknowledge the request. Let them know that you understand that it is important to them. Responding with empathy and showing that you see their needs may help them feel that they are not simply being ignored. Validating their emotions may help lessen the intensity of those feelings.
  • Share your feelings . Explain that you also see how they are trying to make you feel guilty so that you'll do what they want. Then tell them how that type of manipulation makes you feel. Suggest that interacting in that way will lead to resentment and that more direct communication forms would be more effective. 
  • Set boundaries . Boundaries help set limits on what you will and will not accept. Even if you do end up helping them with their request, make sure you clearly articulate your limits and explain the consequences of crossing those boundaries. Then be sure that you enforce those limits if they are crossed.

Other things that you can use include protecting your self-esteem and distancing yourself if needed. You're more likely to fall for a guilt trip if you already feel poorly about yourself, so find strategies to build up your sense of self-worth. 

If the other person keeps trying to manipulate you with feelings of guilt, reduce your communication with them or even consider ending the relationship.

Protecting your own well-being should be a top priority. A person who tries to manipulate you with toxic feelings of shame and guilt does not have your best interests at heart.

Getting Help for Guilt

If you are experiencing feelings of guilt or related symptoms of anxiety, stress, or depression, talk to your health care provider or a mental health professional. They can recommend treatment options such as psychotherapy or medications that can help manage symptoms and improve the quality of your life.

Your doctor or therapist may suggest a type of therapy called cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) , which may help reduce inappropriate guilt feelings. This type of therapy can help you identify and change the negative thoughts and cognitive distortions that can contribute to feelings of guilt.

Your therapist can also help you learn to recognize the signs of a guilt trip—and help you practice strategies to cope with this type of emotional manipulation.

An example of guilt tripping might be your friend calling you and saying, "I know you are too busy with work to hang out. I'll just spend the evening by myself. I just thought that since I helped you get that job you would make sure to make a little more time for me." This type of comment is designed to induce feelings of guilt and bring up the idea that you "owe" them in some way.

Guilt tripping is often designed to manipulate other people by preying on their emotions and feelings of guilt or responsibility. This can be a form of toxic behavior that can have detrimental effects on a person's well-being as well as their relationships.

While both behaviors are destructive and toxic, they differ in key ways. Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse that involves denying another person's reality and making them question their own experiences. Guilt tripping, on the other hand, is about causing another person to feel guilty in order to get them to change their behavior.

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7 Ways to Get Out of Guilt Trips

Guilt trips come with a price that both parties should want to stop paying..

Posted May 16, 2013 | Reviewed by Gary Drevitch

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  • Guilt trips frequently induce not just strong feelings of guilt but equally strong feelings of resentment toward the manipulator.
  • The most common theme of familial guilt trips is one of interpersonal neglect.
  • The best way to limit the damage guilt trips cause is to set limits with the guilt inducer and ask them to change their habits.

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Guilt trips are a form of verbal or nonverbal communication in which a guilt inducer tries to induce guilty feelings in a target, in an effort to control their behavior. As such, guilt trips are a clear form of psychological manipulation and coercion.

However, we rarely think of guilt trips in such harsh terms. Instead, we see them as things some mothers say to get their kids to have another bowl of soup (“I slaved over a stove for three hours for you to have only one matzo ball?”) or something some fathers do to get their children to conform (“Fine, don’t come to your niece's confirmation. I guess your family and faith aren’t important to you anymore.”).

Why Guilt Trips Often Succeed

Guilt trips might be the bread and butter of many families' communications, but they are rarely as benign as we think. While they often "succeed," in that the recipient indeed changes their behavior as a result, these "successes" always come with a price —one few guilt inducers consider: Guilt trips frequently induce not just strong feelings of guilt but equally strong feelings of resentment toward the manipulator.

What allows guilt trips to succeed despite the resentment they cause is the nature of the relationships that usually exists between the two parties. Guilt trips occur most often in close family relationships (or close friendships) because if the target didn’t have strong feelings of caring and affection for the guilt inducer, their resentment and anger at having their feelings manipulated would likely override their guilty feelings and cause them to resist the manipulation.

How Guilt Trips Poison Our Closest Relationships

In studies, people who induced guilt trips were asked to list the potential consequences of giving guilt trips, and only 2 percent mentioned resentment as a likely outcome. In other words, people who use guilt trips are usually entirely focused on getting the result they want and entirely blind to the damage their methods can cause.

Mild as the poisonous effects of most guilt trips are, over the long term, their toxicity can build and cause significant strains and emotional distance. Ironically, the most common theme of familial guilt trips is one of interpersonal neglect, which means the long-term impact of guilt trips is likely to induce the polar opposite result most guilt trippers want.

7 Ways to Set Limits With Guilt Trippers

The best way to limit the damage guilt trips cause to our relationships is to set limits with the guilt inducer and ask them to change their habits. Here’s how:

  • Tell the person that you do understand how important it is for them that you do the thing they’re trying to guilt you into doing.
  • Explain that their using a guilt trip to make you conform to their wishes makes you feel resentful, even if you do end up complying.
  • Tell them you're concerned that accumulating these kinds of resentments can make you feel more distant from them and that is not something you or they wish.
  • Ask them to instead express their wishes directly, to own the request themselves instead of trying to activate your conscience , and to respect your decisions when you make them (e.g., “I would love it if you had another bowl of soup. No? No problem, here’s the brisket,” or, “It would mean a lot to me if you came to your niece’s confirmation but I’ll understand if your schedule doesn’t permit it.”).
  • Explain that you will often do what they ask if they ask more directly. Admit that you might not always conform to their wishes but point out the payoff—that when you do choose to respond positively, you would do so authentically and wholeheartedly, that you would feel good about doing so, and that you would even get more out of it.
  • Be prepared to have reminder discussions and to call them on future guilt trips when they happen (and they will). Remember, it will take time for them to change such an engrained communication habit.
  • Be kind and patient throughout this process. Doing so will motivate them to make more of an effort to change than if you come at them with anger and resentment, legitimate though your feelings may be.

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Guilt trips are a poor communication technique. The reasons people use them vary, from limited social skills to feeling unheard to being an abuser who wants total control. [1] X Research source Unfortunately, they can breed resentment and harm relationships. [2] X Research source If guilt trips are a favorite weapon of someone you know, you can prepare ways to get around them.

Assuaging Their Concerns

Sometimes a guilt trip is a sign that someone doesn't feel heard. Active listening may calm them down so you can have a reasonable conversation.

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  • "Yes, I wasn't thinking about how my actions would affect you. I'm sorry. Now that I understand, I'll know not to do it again."
  • "You're right, it wasn't fair of me to expect you to do all the cleaning. I will help next time."
  • "I'm sorry I forgot. My memory isn't great, and I'll work on writing down the important stuff to help me remember."
  • "You're right. I broke my promise. I didn't mean to cause harm, but I did. I will work on keeping my word in the future."

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  • "I agree that getting this project to work is important. What do you think our priorities should be?"
  • "Yes, your health is important. I can't control how you feel, but I do want to help you. What do you think are some ways to make your life less stressful?"
  • "I can tell that you're going through a difficult time. What would make things easier on you?"
  • "I don't understand what you're talking about, but I can see it's important to you. How can I help you?"

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  • "I can tell that today has been a difficult day for you."
  • "I can see you're unhappy about the state of the project."
  • "You sound stressed."
  • "I know this change has been hard on you."
  • "It's okay to be frustrated. We're in a tough situation."
  • "It sounds like you've been feeling lonely."

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  • "Yes, I've noticed your excellent work on the project. I really like the color scheme you picked."
  • "Yes, you did an excellent job cleaning the bathroom. It's my turn next week, right?"
  • "I know you work so hard taking care of the kids, just like I work hard at my job. I hope you know how much I appreciate all the difficult work at home."

Setting Boundaries

Guilt trips can involve overstepping, sometimes seriously. Setting boundaries can emphasize that it's not okay to treat you this way.

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  • They'll get embarrassed and stop. This means you've successfully clued them in to their bad behavior. Then ask what the two of you can do to fix whatever is upsetting them.
  • They'll deny it. If so, say "Oh, it sounded like you were for a moment." Then move to the problem-solving stage.
  • They'll ignore it and keep pressing forward. You may have to repeat yourself until they change tactics.
  • They'll throw a tantrum. At this point, you may have to say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and walk away.

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  • "This is making me uncomfortable."
  • "I feel really confused right now. I didn't know you wanted anything from me. If you don't tell me what you expect, then I can't meet your expectations."
  • "Guilt trips make me feel uneasy and stressed."
  • "When you guilt trip me, I feel frustrated and I end up bitter. Can we find a healthier way to talk about things?"

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  • "I know it's not easy. I'm doing my best."
  • "I know it's hard for you, but this is something I need to do for myself."
  • "I know you want this, but it's just not possible for me right now."

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  • "I'm not available to work after 6 pm."
  • "I can't come on Friday. But I'd be happy to set up a time to visit next week."
  • "Mom, if you call me names, I will hang up the phone."
  • "No, you can't have friends over today, because we will have dinner guests. But they could come over tomorrow."

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  • "I'm sorry you feel that way."
  • "I'll consider that."
  • "Maybe you're right."
  • "Perhaps. But I still need the report first thing Friday morning."

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  • "Yes, and I apologized for that. Since then, I've made an effort to be on time."
  • "Yes, I made a mistake two years ago. I learned from the experience and now I keep secrets unless there's a health or safety risk."
  • "Yes, I made a mistake that I regret. Now I've learned from it and moved on."

Encouraging Better Communication

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  • This is how they were raised, so it's how they learned to behave
  • They lack the social skills to be assertive
  • They have a serious fear of confrontation or rejection
  • They feel like you won't listen to them
  • They're trying to control you

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  • "I get confused when you drop hints. Please tell me what you'd like."
  • "I won't be upset if you ask me to clean something. Next time, you can just ask me to do the dishes."
  • "You don't have to drop hints with me. Just say that you're lonely and ask if I can hang out. I might say yes."
  • "Are you trying to ask me for something? If so, you can say it and then I'll understand better."

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  • "Thanks for telling me outright. Sure, I'm happy to put on headphones so you can study in peace."
  • "Thank you for letting me know you're having trouble with it. What can I do to make it easier for you?"
  • "Sure, that's not a problem! Happy to help."
  • "I can't help you with that, but maybe Dad could."

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  • "Let's circle back to this later."
  • "I need to go."
  • "I need some air."
  • "Let me think about that and get back to you."

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